Red Flag Edition — 250 Questions to See Clearly | Coercive Control, Gaslighting, Dating Red Flags | Together by Sophia Anwar back to the store
together
red flag edition
not paranoid.
paying attention.
eyes wide open · you decide
You are already enough.
These questions are here to return you to yourself.
£12.99
one-time · instant access · no subscription
try free — 5 questions unlock red flag edition if it does not move you — email me. sophia@endrelationalconflict.com
You already know.
If something has brought you here — a feeling, a moment, a thing he said, a thing he keeps doing — this deck is not here to tell you what to do.
IT IS HERE TO HELP YOU SEE.
Clearly. Honestly. Without the fog. Without the stories you have been telling yourself to make it survivable. Because once you can truly see — you decide.
what you unlock
how he shows up
50 questions
observable behaviour. how he treats others, his values vs his actions, the victim pattern, contempt.
how he handles you
50 questions
his response to your no, your needs, your voice. entitlement, control, dangling carrot.
the pattern
40 questions
one-off vs repeating. the cycle. love-bombing pace. what you have lost since you met him.
the signs
35 questions
coercive control signatures. target of blame, stalking, financial control, isolation, your children.
your gut
45 questions
somatic awareness. your body. your boundaries. the self-forgiveness you may need.
rapid fire
30 scenario pairs
which half do you see more? first answer wins. forces a gut answer.
250 questions across six sections — the comprehensive discernment deck
for individuals, friends and family who need to see clearly
rooted in Lundy Bancroft, Terry Real (RLT), Bill Eddy and John Gottman
not a diagnosis — a permission slip to pay attention
play alone, with a trusted friend, or with your therapist
unlimited play · instant access on any device · yours forever
a question for you
your gut
“What would you tell a close friend if they described this relationship to you?”

Most people who are in a confusing or painful relationship are not lacking intelligence. They are lacking permission — permission to trust what they are feeling, to name what they are seeing, to ask the questions that have been sitting quietly at the back of their mind for months. Red Flag Edition is that permission.

a note from sophia
In my work I see the same thing again and again. Someone who knows something is wrong but cannot quite name it. Who keeps explaining their partner’s behaviour to friends. Who feels more anxious in this relationship than in others but has told herself that is just how love feels.

It is not. These questions exist so you can see clearly — whatever you decide to do with what you see.

Red Flag Edition is rooted in the work of Lundy Bancroft (Why Does He Do That?), Terry Real (Relational Life Therapy), Bill Eddy (high-conflict personalities), and John Gottman (the Four Horsemen). It is the discernment tool I wish I had been given years ago.
Sophia Anwar · Certified RLT Coach & Bootcamp Facilitator
eyes wide open.
you decide.
250 questions to help you — or someone you love — see clearly. Yours forever.
Because relationships deserve intention.
£12.99
one-time · no subscription · instant access on any device
unlock red flag edition
if it does not move you — email me. sophia@endrelationalconflict.com
💝 for a friend who needs it
Someone you love is in a confusing relationship?
Many women in controlling dynamics cannot buy this deck themselves — phones monitored, cards controlled. If you can see what she cannot yet, this deck can be the way in. You buy it. You forward the access to her. She never has to know it came from you.
💝 gift red flag edition · £12.99
💛 if you cannot pay for it
If you cannot afford this and you need it — or you want to gift it to someone who needs it and cannot afford to buy it — email me. sophia@endrelationalconflict.com
No questions. No judgement.
If any of this brought something up — you are not alone.
In immediate danger — call 999.

Refuge · 0808 2000 247 · free, 24/7
Women’s Aid · live chat and resources
Clare’s Law · ask any UK police force about his history of violence against women
Sarah’s Law · ask any UK police force about anyone with access to your children
NSPCC · 0808 800 5000 · if you are worried about a child
If you live outside the UK — please search for the domestic abuse support services, helplines and emergency numbers in your country. The International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies covers most countries. Wherever you are — support exists. You are not alone.
made with love — together